As parents, we’ve all been there. Sometimes life can be extremely frustrating, and there can be so much stuff going on. It can be difficult to not let your anger and frustration out by yelling whenever you are having a bad day. However, you don’t have to let your emotions control you. Here are a few tips:
1. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. Do not say anything for ten seconds. Allow yourself to calm down so you’re not angry. Try not to be so reactive. Take a moment to tell yourself that you are not really in an emergency. Chances are, everything is really fine in the present moment. If you stop and become really present, you can observe your emotions, your thoughts, and your reactions.
2. Do not act or say anything until you have calmed down. It can be very tempting to allow your emotions to take the driver’s seat. You will feel a sudden urgency to act or speak, but you must resist. Set any boundaries or limits you need to in the immediate present, and then allow yourself a moment to breathe and respond sensibly to the situation.
3. Reprogramming your mind becomes easier. When you are upset, and you find yourself pausing for a moment before you react, you are actually rewiring your brain. You will not get triggered as often, which is definitely going to come in handy the next time you are having a difficult day.
4. Develop compassion for yourself and for your children. We are always focused on taking care of and nurturing our children without taking care of and nurturing ourselves. One of the most important things we can do as parents is to practice self-care.
No matter who you are or what situation you are in, you cann0t let your emotions control you. This is good advice for anyone to keep in mind, but especially for parents. As parents, it can be much too easy to let ourselves completely fall into our emotions. You have to remember to take a deep breath and to be present so that you can react with love and compassion.